By Steve Truitt
Brad got up early Thursday morning to make sure his wife could sleep in while he got the kids ready for school. He made coffee, cut fresh fruit and waffles, filled sippy-cups with milk and turned on the TV to the Today Show. Brad wanted his wife to get a few extra minutes of sleep before she went to work. Recently laid off from his job, he has had to learn a whole new set of skills he was never prepared to tackle including house husband and stay home dad. Does this sound like your typical man? Maybe not. But guys like Brad are out there.
As the morning progressed, Brad pulled out the peanut butter, strawberry jam and bread to make sandwiches for the kids’ lunches, added string cheese, grapes and sealed cups of water along with a little ice pack to keep it cold. He tiptoed through the kitchen, careful not to make a sound.
When Brad’s wife awoke, she surveyed the morning activities: “Hon, this cold pack in the lunch box will thaw before she’s ready to eat…Did you take the garbage out?...What happened with that job interview you were supposed to have today?...Do the dogs have enough water?”
Score one for Brad’s wife; the hard-working mother of two who can bring home the bacon and maintain an often disorderly home. She’s amazing. But actually so is he. He is working his system, and what you will never hear from Brad is his disappointment. He may not hear a “Thank you” or appreciation, but that’s a situation most women understand all too well.
Men like Brad might be rare, but they do exist. If you’re living with a “Brad,” here are five take-away tips to help you help him through this tough time:
For all of you hard-working moms who are still expected to do it all without much help and could use a little acknowledgement, you know how it feels. It goes both ways. Not every husband who has lost his job has stepped up like Brad. For those women who are living with such a man, a little appreciation goes a very long way in a relationship.
Steve Truitt is a life coach and the founder of Parent Parachute. His radio show is "The Bottom Line," which can be heard every Wednesday on Healthy Life Radio. He is the author of Stop Waiting For Permission! His website is www.stevetruittcoaching.com.
Check out Steve's latest interview at Ladies' Home Journal's "Ladies Lounge" blog.