Do You Know What Your Body Just Said?

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Carol Kinsey Goman, Ph.D.

By Carol Kinsey Goman, Ph.D.
We reveal a lot about our attitudes, emotions and motives by the way we hold our bodies, especially when using closed or open postures.
In the ultimate closed body posture, arms are folded, legs are crossed and the torso or legs are turned away. Rounding the upper body and hiding hands are closed signals that may also represent feelings of vulnerability or depression.
In open and receptive body postures, legs are uncrossed, and arms are open with palms exposed or resting comfortably on the desk or conference table. If the arms are relaxed at the sides of the body while standing, this is also generally a sign of openness, accessibility, and an overall willingness to interact.
Individuals with open body positions are perceived more positively and are more persuasive than those with closed body positions. But see for yourself. Compare the body language of your co-workers. Watch the people who are the most convincing and successful. I bet you’ll find that they typically use open body positions when interacting with colleagues and presenting their ideas.

Conveying status

Physical posture can also show someone’s status in a group. I’ve seen meetings where all subordinates slumped, while the leader assumed a more erect posture that indicated her dominance. I’ve also watched two executives of similar height meeting for the first time, and saw both men straighten their postures and stretch their bodies to increase the perception of “tallness.”
People of equal status tend to mirror one another (unconsciously assuming similar or identical postures), but people who want to emphasize their higher status may deliberately adopt a different posture or stance to show they are not just “one of the gang.”

Displaying dislike & dominance
Leaning is another way your body indicates your emotions. Leaning backward usually signals feelings of dislike or negativity. It’s a hardwired response from the limbic brain; we subconsciously try to distance ourselves from anything unpleasant or dangerous.
In a seated conversation, leaning backward can also communicate dominance. Someone feeling confident will often sit leaning back with his fingers interlocked, hands behind his head and crossing one leg so that it rests on the other thigh and the knee opens up. This is a very masculine position that takes up a great deal of room and signals that the person is very sure of himself and of his place in the group.

Building positivity
Positive attitudes toward others tend to be accompanied by leaning forward – especially when sitting down. When two people like each other, you’ll see them both lean in. Research also shows that individuals who lean forward tend to increase the verbal output of the person they’re speaking with.
But -- leaning toward a person in the early stages of a conversation will generally be perceived as encroaching on his or her territory. So wait until you’ve developed a level of rapport and interpersonal comfort. Then make your move.
You know that the way you feel affects your body. The reverse is also true. So the next time you go into a situation in which you want to project your most confident self, start by standing up straight, pulling your shoulders back and holding your head high. Just by assuming this physical posture, you will begin to feel surer of yourself.

Carol Kinsey Goman, Ph.D. is an executive coach, change-management consultant, and international keynote speaker. She’s the author of “The Nonverbal Advantage: Secrets and Science of Body Language at Work.” Her new book, “THE SILENT LANGUAGE OF LEADERS” will be published in the spring of 2011. Learn more at and Follow Carol on Twitter.

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  • This article reminds me of two books: Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman and Blink by Malcom Gladwell, both of which describe the processes of our subconscious and how it analyzes situations based on body movement, facial expressions or other red flags without us fully being aware. Goleman goes a step further and discusses the ways in which you can train your brain to better consciously recognize the little nuances in behavior. Blink is a lighter book that attempts to explain how "following our intuition" sometimes means part of our brain has picked up on key signals that that our conscious hasn't yet, and knows the right decision before we do. They are both interesting to read, at the very least, because they explain better ways to become more self-aware of how our subconscious functions.


    A summary of EI:

    Posted by mbeardsl, 18 July 2010.