What do women want? Guess what, I don’t know. Hell, I don’t know what I want. To me, women aren’t a monolithic entity, so I try to steer clear of such statements. But, I embrace feminism and womanity, and hope that my needs address the needs of everyone, male or female.
I would like to be paid the same as my male counterparts. I would like to have great health benefits, without a deductible that is equivalent to my salary for two weeks. I would like my husband and me to have access to comprehensive, paid family leave, if we need to use it. I would like everyone to take a five minute time out before they say something hateful to someone else. I wish the universe would stop telling me what I should wear, how my body should be shaped, where I should or shouldn’t have body hair, and how I should behave. I would like men to stop explaining things to me. I would like to buy cleaning products, grooming products, and nutritious foods that don’t poison my family or our earth and are not exorbitantly priced. I would like to abolish discrimination forever. I would like my hair to look decent from time to time. I would like to get a good night’s sleep.
Look, I don’t even know if any of the things I want are realistic or can be achieved in my lifetime, in my daughter’s lifetime, if ever. Do I know the wants of other women? No. How can I? I only know myself. But, doesn’t what I want coincide with what all of us want? I want the human experience to be fulfilling, regardless of gender. Shouldn’t we all want that?
Originally from Anchorage, Alaska, Lesley Bunnell currently lives in Providence, Ri, with her family - including a rambunctious 6 3/4 year daughter and two black kittens named Mr. Pibb and Rihanna. Though currently employed at an environmental organization, for many years she was a dancer in a magical land called Brooklyn. She is a lover, not a fighter.