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The Sisterhood of Mothering Let’s Build It

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Cheryl Saban, Ph.D., Author

By Cheryl Saban

I am a mother and a grandmother with four children and four grandchildren. My own mom is 83 years old, and she continues to mother me in her gentle, loving way.  In my childhood years, I was also “mothered” by other female relatives, particularly by my aunts and grandmothers. I feel blessed to be a mom, and I hold this part of my life in high esteem. 

Unfortunately, mothers don’t always get validated for the amazing jobs they perform. Why is that? Certainly it’s obvious that the children of today will be the custodians of society tomorrow. How they are taught and treated in their formative years will shape who they are as they grow into adults. Yet, the efforts of mothers are often taken for granted, or worse, discounted. It’s time to turn that around.

A mother’s contributions to her children are priceless. They include:  

  • Demonstrating the value of being decent and moral
  • Teaching them to respect rules and boundaries
  • Showing them how to be compassionate, empathetic, and forgiving
  • Fostering their curiosity
  • Nurturing and devoting time and attention to them
  • Providing selfless and unconditional love

Though a mother’s contribution to society is difficult to quantify, at the end of the day, what a mother and the mothering women around a child gives is no less than what the child needs to survive. 

A woman's intuition, instinct to nurture, protect, and form communities, as well as her strength to endure the pain of childbirth, are among a mother’s many gifts -- highly significant, by anyone’s standards. A mother’s strength, ability and input as a mother/teacher/nurturer to her offspring are vital components in how society evolves. This is enormous power. We must take this seriously, even if society doesn’t always send that message. 

While it’s true that not all of us have the knack, or the patience, or the skill to be confident, fair, loving, and kind at all times, we all have the potential to mother others. And regardless of whether you hold your mother or other female relatives in high esteem, or resent them for not being the best they could be, you learned lessons about life from them. We can all participate in the positive growth of society by supporting and encouraging each other as mothers, mentors, and community nurturers. 

Start by respecting yourself and other mothers for the enormously important job of nurturing our planet’s future caretakers, and for your invaluable participation in the circle of life.  

Let us build a sisterhood of mothering. 

Cheryl Saban will be speaking at The Women’s Conference on October 27th and signing copies of her book, What is Your Self-Worth? A Woman’s Guide to Validation at Night at The Village on October 26th.

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