Coping with Grief – How to Handle the Funeral Service & Beyond

If someone close to you has passed, the last thing you want to do is plan or even attend a funeral, but it is a necessary part of the grieving process. When you are the primary organiser, getting through the funeral service can be even more difficult. You’ll also be the centre of attention during the service and reception. This can be overwhelming, but there are many strategies to help us cope.

Organise in Advance

Although sometimes we have no choice, if you can, don’t leave it until the last minute to organise the ceremony. Get in touch with a Sydney funeral director and discuss your options as soon as possible. They’ll help you execute the service, so you don’t get overstressed at the funeral. In addition, try sort out the catering and venue, so it is one less thing to worry about. If you are worried about Covid-19 and health restrictions, talk to the funeral director and follow government guidelines.

Simple Attire

During the funeral service, you want to be an emotionally present as possible, so wear something that is comfortable and suits the occasion. If you are attending a service that you are unfamiliar with, do some research before you go to ensure you are wearing the right outfit.

Look for Support During the Service

Before the pandemic, mourners would stay close to friends and family during and after the service. Staying close to people you know, and love was a way of staying strong and getting support. Times have changed and in many countries, there are strict social distancing rules, even at funeral services. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t attend as there are many good reasons to go to the service.

Once you follow all the government guidelines, you can still spend time with loved ones at the funeral. Although contact isn’t recommended, mourners can speak to each other and share stories at a safe distance. You can also avoid people or mourn alone, depending on your preference.

Don’t Overthink

There is no need to overthink the ceremony, so don’t worry about speeches or what type of music to play. Your guests are there to ensure your comfort, not the other way around. Don’t fuss over the small details, allow yourself to share memories and receive condolences.

After the Service

When the funeral has passed, you’ll need to focus on strategies to help you cope. Start by reading about grief to understand your emotions. There are many ways to deal with loss, some turn to mediation and exercise. Using guided mediation and exercise can help us better manage all the stages of grief. It is also important to stay connected to others, that’s why a lot of people volunteer.

Coping with the loss of a loved one is incredibly difficult. It is never something that goes away, but it can be managed better with helpful strategies. It is important to let people help with the funeral service to make thing easier on yourself. When the ceremony has passed, look for useful strategies to deal with loss. 

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